Home and Hand-made items done or created by kids are few and far between these days due to everyday children having access to electronic entertainments devices. Therefore the likelihood of a kid who has grown-up watching a fair amount of television and playing video games (natural societal evolution), rather than being forced to explore the possibilities of their own minds, their imaginations which allows the ability to create your own fun from around the home using whatever there is laying around to use either playfully or artistically, creatively to pass the time. Children given that opportunity are curious, show interest in a great number of things and express obvious talents and skills which usually 'amaze' any parent (not only from a 'bias' point of view either). These children are typically extraordinary and grade a lot higher in IQ level to other kids. They show incredible 'problem-solving' skills, are very good at improvising with impeccable memories and can hold down remarkably interesting conversations with adults showing great maturity at such a young age.
No-one can really say for certain what a child raised without much of today's technological influences will grow-up to be - as though to suggest your kid could even become the 'next Nobel Prize Winner' or Genius Scientist etc given the right influences, every parent is 'Proud As Punch' of their offspring (myself included)
but there is one thing known for certain regarding a childs behaviour towards a parent and a hobby or skillset in which the child bears no interest and it is the parent selecting the talent-type EG:- learning to play piano, ballet dancing for a male child, english tutoring for a child excelling with enjoyment in mathematics etc. If you push a child to pursue something they do not like or enjoy when they've proven an obvious natural talent towards something else, the child will reject whatever you are 'pushing' them to learn and simply will not comply. They may even begin to resent it and the parent who is pushing them.
Keep in mind your child may look up to you, but your child is not you. There have been many instances where a parent or guardian who feels they themselves were 'held-back' or 'missed-out' on certain opportunities in their youths can be rectified by using the child showing talent in the particular skillset that the
parent had 'lost' to regain what the parent lost. In a way, living through their child by manipulating thoughts and desires to try and have the child comply willingly to the point where the child even believes it was their own competitive pursuit or longing to do what they are being 'prepared' to do in order to accomplish what the parent 'didn't' when they were younger is a very common practise. Sometimes it is done deliberately, on purpose (planned since birth by the parent) and sometimes it is done on a much more harmful level, subconsciously. Subconscious desires for your kids can be dangerous as not being completely aware of what you are doing can cause upset and the child rejects your efforts so just try to be aware of what you want for them, tell your kids if you like, but never 'push', 'drive' or 'force' (even manipulate- don't go there) them into following your interest as it is so important that they develop an avid curiosity for the topic in question, When they show a liking to something you share in common, then begin to express slowly what you know and love about it on their level and in their own time.
If you do not follow this advice then there's a good chance that what you want for your child will never happen. This will also apply even if it is something the child is interested and curious about pursuing but in order to gain positive results, the child must be able to 'chase' their ideas and wants on their own terms. If you allow this, by sitting back and allowing them to make their own mistakes by working things out for themselves and provide guidance only when asked, they will excel at their talents and blow your mind away as the proud, supportive parent you need to be for them. As long as your kids know you are there to pick them up at the end of the should they happen to fall, to cheer them on or congratulate and show your approval when they succeed on their own. Ensure that your children know that the love and care you have for them is unconditional regardless of their actions by communicating correctly and teaching them to communicate with you through honesty and truth. This is the way to have the best results for a happy, well adjusted child or children with explosive talent, skills and intelligence to give them the best start in life with wonderful opportunities available to them whether be for fun, hobbies and interests, scholastic or educational, future employment opportunities when they grow up (which does happen so darn quickly doesn't it?).
It is difficult for every parent in this day and age compared to children fortunate enough to grow-up prior to the year 2000. Statistics seem to show an obvious difference in behavioural and skill development for those born anywhere in the 1900's bracket EG: from 1900 to 1999 before the disadvantages of easy access to internet, television, video games and any other devices with the ability to uncontrollably funnel violent, immature, explicit and inappropriate content became readily available in most homes. There is a very informative article regarding these kinds of statistics from 'Parenthood In America' The particular article I believe will be helpful to you about this topic is called 'Growing Chaos in the Lives of Children Youth and Families: How Can We Turn It Around?' Just click on the title and it will take you to more information about the process of influences in society's media change over the last 100 years and was written by Urie Bronfenbrenner, Professor of Human Development and Family Studies and of Psychology at Cornell University. Regardless of the American references, the information still applies to every child in every country in the world today. The research is sound and valid so if you are serious about helping your child in a positive influential manner, then please feel free to explore that here.
Every parent wants the best for their kids, it's only natural. What you have to approach if it becomes an issue is when to help your children and how because sometimes helping them is actually hurting them in the end by the child not having the room to grow and help themselves. Helping yourself and taking care of yourself as a person is a skill in it's own and it is up to each and every Mum and Dad out there to 'step-up' and where needed, 'step-back' as one of the most impotant things your child needs from you is to learn how to take care of themselves. Wiping their own bottoms when they are 3 or 4 years old is a great achievement for any child, but can you afford to have to wipe their bottoms when they're 35 years old? That is why this is such an important issue that no parent should avoid becoming aware of.
By following these tips you will find your kids developing healthier relationships with each other, even siblings, as well as closer parental bonding within your family. A child who feels safe, loved and supported no matter which direction they choose to travel, is a very skilled and smart child with a happy, healthy and very
well-adjusted family relationship. Show them plenty of love, just don't forget the discipline when required :) it is usually from punishment that lessons are learnt, and remembered! Good Luck with your kids and I genuinely wish you and your family a bright, prosperous and happy future.
No-one can really say for certain what a child raised without much of today's technological influences will grow-up to be - as though to suggest your kid could even become the 'next Nobel Prize Winner' or Genius Scientist etc given the right influences, every parent is 'Proud As Punch' of their offspring (myself included)
but there is one thing known for certain regarding a childs behaviour towards a parent and a hobby or skillset in which the child bears no interest and it is the parent selecting the talent-type EG:- learning to play piano, ballet dancing for a male child, english tutoring for a child excelling with enjoyment in mathematics etc. If you push a child to pursue something they do not like or enjoy when they've proven an obvious natural talent towards something else, the child will reject whatever you are 'pushing' them to learn and simply will not comply. They may even begin to resent it and the parent who is pushing them.
Keep in mind your child may look up to you, but your child is not you. There have been many instances where a parent or guardian who feels they themselves were 'held-back' or 'missed-out' on certain opportunities in their youths can be rectified by using the child showing talent in the particular skillset that the
parent had 'lost' to regain what the parent lost. In a way, living through their child by manipulating thoughts and desires to try and have the child comply willingly to the point where the child even believes it was their own competitive pursuit or longing to do what they are being 'prepared' to do in order to accomplish what the parent 'didn't' when they were younger is a very common practise. Sometimes it is done deliberately, on purpose (planned since birth by the parent) and sometimes it is done on a much more harmful level, subconsciously. Subconscious desires for your kids can be dangerous as not being completely aware of what you are doing can cause upset and the child rejects your efforts so just try to be aware of what you want for them, tell your kids if you like, but never 'push', 'drive' or 'force' (even manipulate- don't go there) them into following your interest as it is so important that they develop an avid curiosity for the topic in question, When they show a liking to something you share in common, then begin to express slowly what you know and love about it on their level and in their own time.
If you do not follow this advice then there's a good chance that what you want for your child will never happen. This will also apply even if it is something the child is interested and curious about pursuing but in order to gain positive results, the child must be able to 'chase' their ideas and wants on their own terms. If you allow this, by sitting back and allowing them to make their own mistakes by working things out for themselves and provide guidance only when asked, they will excel at their talents and blow your mind away as the proud, supportive parent you need to be for them. As long as your kids know you are there to pick them up at the end of the should they happen to fall, to cheer them on or congratulate and show your approval when they succeed on their own. Ensure that your children know that the love and care you have for them is unconditional regardless of their actions by communicating correctly and teaching them to communicate with you through honesty and truth. This is the way to have the best results for a happy, well adjusted child or children with explosive talent, skills and intelligence to give them the best start in life with wonderful opportunities available to them whether be for fun, hobbies and interests, scholastic or educational, future employment opportunities when they grow up (which does happen so darn quickly doesn't it?).
It is difficult for every parent in this day and age compared to children fortunate enough to grow-up prior to the year 2000. Statistics seem to show an obvious difference in behavioural and skill development for those born anywhere in the 1900's bracket EG: from 1900 to 1999 before the disadvantages of easy access to internet, television, video games and any other devices with the ability to uncontrollably funnel violent, immature, explicit and inappropriate content became readily available in most homes. There is a very informative article regarding these kinds of statistics from 'Parenthood In America' The particular article I believe will be helpful to you about this topic is called 'Growing Chaos in the Lives of Children Youth and Families: How Can We Turn It Around?' Just click on the title and it will take you to more information about the process of influences in society's media change over the last 100 years and was written by Urie Bronfenbrenner, Professor of Human Development and Family Studies and of Psychology at Cornell University. Regardless of the American references, the information still applies to every child in every country in the world today. The research is sound and valid so if you are serious about helping your child in a positive influential manner, then please feel free to explore that here.
Every parent wants the best for their kids, it's only natural. What you have to approach if it becomes an issue is when to help your children and how because sometimes helping them is actually hurting them in the end by the child not having the room to grow and help themselves. Helping yourself and taking care of yourself as a person is a skill in it's own and it is up to each and every Mum and Dad out there to 'step-up' and where needed, 'step-back' as one of the most impotant things your child needs from you is to learn how to take care of themselves. Wiping their own bottoms when they are 3 or 4 years old is a great achievement for any child, but can you afford to have to wipe their bottoms when they're 35 years old? That is why this is such an important issue that no parent should avoid becoming aware of.
By following these tips you will find your kids developing healthier relationships with each other, even siblings, as well as closer parental bonding within your family. A child who feels safe, loved and supported no matter which direction they choose to travel, is a very skilled and smart child with a happy, healthy and very
well-adjusted family relationship. Show them plenty of love, just don't forget the discipline when required :) it is usually from punishment that lessons are learnt, and remembered! Good Luck with your kids and I genuinely wish you and your family a bright, prosperous and happy future.
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